In 2016 I had a traumatic experience with my first pregnancy and sadly suffered a late miscarriage at 16 weeks. The build up to that moment had been very emotionally challenging and I certainly had not got the headspace to even give one thought to birth. I did have to go into hospital to deliver our daughter and all I remember is feeling a lot of fear and absolutely no control over what was happening to me. I happened to be abroad and I was very much left alone and frightened, and additionally had the language barrier to contend with.
No one had ever actually explained to me what happens in labour and birth, I mean what really happens. I knew like everyone else that of course you ‘give birth’ to a baby, but I didn’t know anything at all about how the body achieved this. This isn’t really something anyone tells you.
I was incredibly tense, did not feel in the slightest bit calm and couldn’t have been less prepared. I had no idea then that everything I was feeling was hugely hindering my body from doing what it needed to, I was working against myself. In addition, I was also trying to deal with my feelings of grief and distress about what was happening, and in reality did not want to be going through any of it.
So, when I fell pregnant with my daughter Emily, I knew I wanted to be prepared. I never wanted to feel that fear and lack of control again. Even if something were to happen, I still wanted to understand the process and what was happening, and I wanted to feel as relaxed as possible about birth. This is how I found hypnobirthing and it was exactly what I needed. It gave me something positive to try and focus on and it helped me understand what would happen no matter the course my birth took.
I went into labour feeling so calm and looking forward to the birth. It didn’t go entirely to my plan as I needed to be induced but it didn’t change my outlook, I was able to easily adapt as the situation required. I had also hoped for a water birth, but my labour progressed much faster than anyone anticipated and I had no time for that in the end! I knew I had the hypnobirthing to thank for this. To me the most important thing is about you feel about your birth, rather than the specifics of how it happened.
I have had a keen interest in birth since my own experiences and I knew I wanted to help support others on their journey. I am a fully qualified hypnobirthing teacher with a diploma in KG Hypnobirthing – although I now teach the Love Your Birth method. I also have a degree in Paediatric Nursing which supports my understanding of biology and child development.
If you would like to find out more about what I can offer please see my hypnobirthing courses, or contact me.